Friday, 27 February 2009

• Things I did because I loved him

  Things I did because I loved him:

  • Put up over 6 months believeing the ex he was friends with wanted him back and then 6 1/2 months later he tells me she doesn't.
  • Put up with that friendship period.
  • Willing to leave my life in San Diego, California so I can live with him in NY.
  • Shave an area I didn't want to just for him.
  • Play a game he played because it was another way he and I can interact other than iming and txting only to have him start playing 2 other games. His friend had to remind him that I only played that game because he played it and I had no other reason to play it if and when he doesn't. His friend.
  • Decided not go to San Fran State University because he doesn't like California and it would be wasting money going from California to NY then California then NY again. He wants to get out of California the first possible chance and doesn't want to look back.
  • Straining my friendships because they no longer will be living down the road let alone the same time zone.
  • Be so far away from my family in California and live in NY where at the least his mother and some cousins live in reasonable distance.
  • Decided to not get a cat I really wanted because he absolutely hates them.
  • Told him he could keep his friend, just don't expect me to be friends with her like I don't expect him to be friends with my friends. I'd like to keep seperate friends as well as some mutual friends so on days we want to spend on "me time" we would have our own set of friends to hang out with.
  • Didn't bother to ask him to get rid of the gifts his "last" ex (though supposedly he had a short lived relationship after this said ex before me) because I knew he wouldn't "replace them. Those gifts include shirts he supposedly hated (one he wore right after he and I had sex which was a blow in the gut), candle holders, lamps, dishes, picture frames...the list goes on. Also didn't bother to tell him to get rid of pictures he kept of his ex's for the same reason of not asking him to get rid of the gifts from one of the ex's he wouldn't do it. (Says him he didn't want to throw away the picture because he took the pictures, which I found a stupid reason but I still didn't tell him to get rid of them.) The gifts he said he liked them, and though I knew and still know there are things out there that he'd like more, I still knew he wouldn't want to replace those gifts so I didn't tell him to get rid of them. The pictures I knew was hopeless to ask. He wants to get married and keep these things and I'm not going to tell him to get rid of them because he asked me not to.

  Things he did for me:

  • "gave up" the friendship with his ex because I  wasn't comfortable with it but bitched about it constantly.
  • bought me things because it's a way to show his love when I told him that I'd rather him show his love without buying me things.
  • is willing to let me have 1 dog, but he continues to say he really doesn't like them.
  • told me he was willing to stay in California, but then said he'd be miserable about it...then said he'd stay as long as he's with me.
  • says I'm so beautiful like any of the elves in Lord of the Rings but then goes about saying how he looks so much like an ugly-ass ogre or whatever standing next to me in our pics. Not the best way to make me feel as pretty as you tell me I am.
  • Supported my decision/consideration of going into the military (Navy or Air Force) only about 8 or 10 hrs (if even) after he did everything to get me to not sign including hurt me. He hurt me so bad and convinced me to the point that I believed that I made the wrong decision and so much other things. I have uncles, cousins, and good friends in the military who tells me about military life so I'm aware of the lifestyle. And this boyfriend is someone who had left the military after 8 years deciding he didn't want to make it a career.

  **Edited--I'll be adding things as they happen.

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